It is important to consider all options when facing an unplanned pregnancy. Pregnancy brings many physical and emotional changes and when you are not sure of your decision, these changes can be even more overwhelming. The good news is you don't have to make this decision alone. WE ARE HERE TO HELP. We want to give you the tools, the knowledge and the HOPE to make the best CHOICE for you and your baby. We can walk you through exploring the option of adoption and refer you to an adoption agency.
Adoption is a loving parenting option in which you have the unique opportunity to provide a quality of life for your child that you may not be able to offer him/her at this time. It is a loving and courageous plan made because you are able to put your child's needs before your own, knowing that he/she deserves something more than you can provide at this point in your life.
Healthy reasons for adoption can include:
Not feeling prepared to settle down to the responsibility of caring for a baby.
The realization that you cannot provide financially for a child.
The inability to provide a father figure for the baby.
The inability to satisfy the mental and emotional needs of a baby.
Was the Pregnancy Planned YES/NO
Do you have information on all the options available to you? Do you know what they are? YES/NO
Are your friends and family members aware of your pregnancy? YES/NO
Will your family support you emotionally and/or financially in parenting this child? YES/NO
Do you currently live somewhere where you can care for a baby? (Permanent living arrangement?) YES/NO
Do you live in a home free of abuse and destructive behavior (physical emotional or environmental)? YES/NO
Do you have a job or other means of steady income? YES/NO
Have you prepared a budget of estimated expenses that go along with raising a child (not just a newborn)? YES/NO
Have you finished your education (or secure in your job/career goals)? YES/NO
Have you considered how a baby will affect your future plans: YES/NO
Will your baby have a permanent father or father figure in his/her life? YES/NO
Are any of your good friends or family members single parents? Have you talked to them about what actually goes into raising a child? YES/NO
Do you feel emotionally and financially prepared to care for a child by yourself, without your partner? YES/NO
Are you prepared to ALWAYS put your baby's needs first (before yourself, boyfriend, family, friends...)? YES/NO
TOTAL: _____ yes ______no
4 "no" answers or less
You seem to be carefully considering your plans for your baby. Do not forget to reassess your options and plans over time. As new information may come to light or your situation changes, so may your plans. Ones belief of how things will go and the realities are sometimes often different. Plans can change, they are not written in stone.
5 - 7 "no" answers
Options counseling may help you better understand the challenges and realities of parenting. You may want to compare a parenting plan to an adoption plan. This can help you make the best plan for you AND your baby.
More than 7 "no" answers
Will you be able to meet your child's needs? You may need some extra help in exploring your options. Whether adoption is ultimately your plan or not. we can help you decide on a plan that will be best for you and your child.